A Fat Boy No More: NO NO NO Weight Loss Surgery

My Story and The Plan

Hi, my name is J Brian (group responds HI J BRIAN). I am FAT. I have been for most of my adult life.

I will be A Fat Boy No More.

Three years ago I started a journey to become A Fat Boy No More. And since September 2007 I have been publishing my success and failures. This Blog follows me from the day I first started my weight loss journey and it focuses on the everyday struggles that people with weight problems have.

Prepare yourself for a very real and very challenging event in my life. I commit to being as honest and as clear as I can be in the webpage to chronicle my ongoing battle with my weight. The pictures can be explicit.

After 12 years of being bigger than I should be... ok lets just be honest. I was not big I was fat. I have been over weight and muscular for most of my adult life. But the muscular part has been over shadowed by a large layer of fat on my body. I've eaten too much and I lived a sedentary life. In December 2006 I weighed 320 pounds. The morning I weighed myself and saw that I was over 300 pounds I essentially went into a deep depression that day and I am sure that I ate another 5 pounds worth of food. But that night I decided that enough was enough. My weight problem had become more than just an appearance problem it became a health problem, a self esteem problem and it was starting to affect my business and income. I had to do something. And I had to be held accountable. Technology is a good thing. I decided I had to put it out there. I started texting everyone in cell phone saying "Officially a fat ass now I weigh 300". I had been lying forever and telling people that I was 250. And no one questioned it.

The first step I took was to hit the gym and cut my calories. I looked on webmd and found out how many calories there where in a pound (3500) and decided to create this formula to determine how many calories and how much extra exercise I had to do to lose 60 pounds by May 27th. My annual trip to Key West Florida. By February I had lost 25 pounds. On a plan that was essentially the same thing that Weight Watchers teaches you. Then life hit me. After being so good I just got tired of it. I had no real support structure. And so I just relapsed because I was on a diet. Not a life change. But between March and August I essentially maintained my weight loss. In April I got a part time job working in a restaurant as a bartender. Everyone thinks I was crazy to do that but the truth is I just needed something to make me active. I needed to get off my lazy fat ass and be active. I gave up sweet tea and I stopped eating beef for the most part. I chose bison. Which taste so similar and has a familiar texture but had half the calories. Nothing else really changed.

But I did not lose the weight I wanted. When I was in Key West I looked like a beached whale and I felt horrible. I have a picture from that trip that show the folds of fat on my back. I was so depressed after that trip. So I essentially just maintained until late July when my best friend Michelle told me that a guy we both worked with a few years back had lost a lot of weight thru some medical weight loss plan.

I kinda brushed it off. I was looking into Lap Band or some other surgery. Then another friend of mine saw Brad as well and said Brad has lost a lot of weight. So I called Brad and he told me about the plan thru Emory Hospital. I went to an info session on the plan and decided to enroll.

Before you consider any type of surgery please look into medically managed weight loss. IT WORKS. Your doctor or the Bariatrics department of your local university hospital can direct you. Too many of my friends had surgery and lost a lot of weight and regained it. Even with a smaller stomach you can eat ice cream all the time and gain it back. I have a friend that just did that.

So this is what I did initially. Follow my blog posts from the beginning and see the transformation.

13 December 2010

NO NO NO Weight Loss Surgery

Since I have this blog and I am very active on Facebook and other social media sites regarding my weight I have the pleasure of hearing from many people regarding their personal struggles and their successes. I can honestly say the happiest moment for me is when someone says... " read your profile a year ago and I've lost 42 pounds (or 10 or 140). Many bypass my success and I can not be happier.

The saddest thing I hear is " I think I am going to have XYZ surgery". Plastic or cosmetic surgery is one thing and it is Cosmetic. You will not really lose any POUNDS from it... you will tighten or improve the look of a body part...I've not done this but as I age I will have no problem with doing so. What I am saddest about is when someone has gastric bypass or lap band.

I can name 5 personal friends and you have some to I bet who have had these surgeries and after as little as three years they start putting on the fat. Look at Carnie Wilson. Her recent tweet was "I am fat as f*ck". She lost more than 150 pounds and has gained a significant portion back. Please do not respond and say... but I'm going to have lap band. It's not permanent. Surgery is not your best option for weight management. PERIOD At 600 pounds do it. Hell I'll support that.

What has been my success?

First- I am successful because I heard one very important comment my doctor made to me. I told her, " I just don't want to have to think about what I eat anymore" She looked at me with the most sincere response... "then you plan to fail?"

I was shocked but I understood. Weight management for those of us who have "challenges" is LIFE LONG. My friends will tell you... I do not eat like a rabbit. I eat what I want but I have learned valuable lessons. I monitor my weight, I make it my business to understand my body. I make it my business to understand what I eat. Could I lose more?... yes. Do I want to lose more?...yep. Will I lose more? Absolutely.

Can anyone succeed with what I have done. YES YOU CAN.

Emory and the Optifast Program taught me invaluable lessons. Anyone can lose weight. It's a pretty basic mathematical problem. Calories consumed- Calories used= Gain or Loss. But I learned how to eat, how to manage food. How to manage me. How to say NO. That starving children in Africa are not going to get the leftover food on my plate anyway. The most important thing I took from Emory/Optifast was not the 60 pounds or so that I shed in the actual plan It was the knowledge.

By the way. I am not at my lowest weight in the last 3 years. I am about 10 pounds over were I have been be and about 30 pounds more than I want to be. I have the tools to get there. Knowledge my friends, is half the battle.

Join me in my last 30 pounds? And please stop considering Lap band unless you are more than 450 pounds. Talk to your doctor. Contact the local Bariatrics Department of your local hospital or University. If they start out with surgery, go to another.

Find out your options. After you lose weight naturally then you can look into cosmetic surgery- you might not need it. Or you might either way you have taken control of your WEIGHT Management.

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Optifast and how it worked for me

This is what I did in the Beginning

Phase 1- 14 weeks or 98 days NO FOOD This is s liquid only stage using products from Optifast. I drink 5 shakes or soups a day for 98 days. Started Sept 21, 2007 ended December 28, 2007. Food was not an option. I admit I do eat dill pickles. There are no calories in dill pickles and I really want the crunch.

Phase 2- 7 Weeks or 49 Days Reintroduction of food. Gradually ending my use of the shakes and soups and adding back the right kinds of food.

Phase 3 6 months- Ongoing support classes. This can and likely will be extended ongoing program.

Tips for a Better Life

1. Take a 10-30 minutes walk every day. And while you walk, smile.
2. Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day.
3. Sleep for 7 hours.
4. Live with the 3 E's -- Energy, Enthusiasm, and Empathy.
5. Play more games.
6. Read more books than you did the previous year.
7. Make time to practice meditation, yoga, and prayer. They provide us with daily fuel for our busy lives.
8. Spend time with people over the age of 70 & under the age of 6.
9. Dream more while you are awake.
10. Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants and eat less food that is manufactured in plants.
11. Drink plenty of water.
12. Try to make at least three people smile each day.
13. Don't waste your precious energy on gossip.
14. Forget issues of the past. Don't remind your partner with his/her mistakes of the past. That will ruin your present happiness.
15. Don't have negative thoughts or things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment.
16. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn. Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.
17. Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a beggar.
18. Smile and laugh more.
19. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Don't hate others.
20. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
21. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
22. Make peace with your past so it won't spoil the present.
23. Don't compare your life to others'. You have no idea what their journey is all about. Don't compare your partner with others.
24. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.
25. Forgive everyone for everything.
26. What other people think of you is none of your business.
27. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
28. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch.
29. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.
30. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
31. The best is yet to come.
32. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
33. Do the right thing!
34. Call your family and friends often.
35. Your inner most is always happy. So be happy.
36. Each day give something good to others.
37. Don't over do. Keep your limits.

Activity and Workout Philosphy

To maintain any weight loss you must become more active. There is NO option to this very basic idea. What you do is pretty much up to you and the level at which you do it is also up to you and your specific goals. I want to be extremely muscular, where another person may prefer to be trim and lean and carry little mass.

Below I share with you my lifting routines. I would not expect anyone to do this much. It is extreme but it suits my needs specifically. And finally I will share with you a few of my suggestions for increasing activity the easy way.

I run/walk approximately 2 miles 5 to 6 days a week.